There’s a saying in healthcare, and that is to get ahead, you must quit and change jobs. In the early years of my career, I did exactly that, and often. At the time, it looked like zigzagging. Looking back I see it as the foundation for everything I’ve done since. Each role gave me a new perspective, a new skill, and a better understanding of who I am. It’s those lessons that shaped me into the advocate that I am today.
Building Blocks: Learning the Business of Healthcare
I began at the bottom, working as a dental assistant. From there I moved to the front desk, then into supervisory roles at a health insurance company. My boss eventually suggested something that changed my life: “Why don’t you become a consultant?” He saw what I hadn’t yet realized, namely I wasn’t going to stay in anyone else’s shadows for long.
I had something rare, a network. Young doctors were eager to start their own practices, patients wanted their insurance to actually work for them, and I had the relationships to connect the dots. At that time, patients paid their doctors directly, then sought reimbursement from their insurer. If you could help people navigate that maze then you were already a step ahead.
And I was lucky again. The laws allowing professional advertising had just changed which meant very few competitors. Without the Internet (this was the 1970’s), I turned to the Business Library and sent flyers to every organization that I could find. Soon I was standing in front of groups like the Public Health Association, speaking about healthcare reform and how physicians could grow their practices.
It wasn’t about broad advertising; it was about relationships. I asked doctors to describe their ideal patient: the ones who accepted treatment plans, paid their bills (with insurance), and referred others. From there, I built systems for everything including branding, staff training, union relationships, and business strategies.
Mentors and Milestones
There weren’t many women business owners in healthcare consulting back then. I was fortunate enough to meet Martha Stevens, a trailblazing consultant who generously shared her wisdom. She taught me how to price my services, present myself professionally, and balance business with professional life. That mentorship was gold.
One of my most memorable clients was Dental World, the flashy one-day dentistry practice located in Roosevelt Field Mall in Long Island. They had everything from an in-house lab to babysitting and even a movie theater. I agreed to work with them on commission, a risk that paid off. Soon I became known as Miss Dental World, gaining media exposure and invaluable experience when the company went public and even launched franchises.
But business highs are often followed by lows. A shady investor swooped in, installed his girlfriend in my role, and pushed me out. I negotiated my exit, kept my trade secrets, and watched from the sidelines as the business collapsed. That painful chapter taught me two lessons, trust your instincts and never put your all of eggs in one basket.
Reinvention and Growth
Thankfully, I still had my contacts. I pivoted, found new sponsors and helped a dentist and his wife (a radiologist), open one of the first chains of radiology centers in the 1980’s. This was groundbreaking at a time when no one thought of doctors as running “big businesses.” The model became a blueprint for hospitals outsourcing services.
Over the next two decades, I immersed myself in every aspect of modern medicine including MRIs, telehealth (before it had a name), physician education, and health reform committees. I wasn’t just building my own business, I was shaping how healthcare itself evolved.
I participated in strikes, reform debates, and even efforts to create physician-owned HMOs. And then came September 11th, 2001. Living in downtown Brooklyn, with an office on Wall Street, and a client in the World Trade Center, I watched the towers fall. That tragedy, combined with my mother’s passing shortly after, shifted my focus. I moved to Florida, continued serving clients remotely, and began to explore senior healthcare.
Discovering My Calling: Advocacy for Seniors
What began with volunteer Medicare counseling grew into something much bigger. People asked me not just about coverage, but about finding doctors, arranging transportation, and navigating daily challenges. One of my first paying clients was the Mayor of North Miami who had suffered a stroke and develop aphasia. I worked out creative ways for him to communicate, even coaching him through public speeches.
Another client was a pioneering dietician with no family. I helped her set up a charity so her life’s work could live on. These experiences showed me what I was meant to do, advocate not for systems or doctors, but for people.
By the time I returned to New York in 2004, I fully embraced the title of Patient Advocate. I explained to professionals that unlike care managers who focus on compliance, I listened to what the patient wanted and worked toward safe, workable solutions.
Leading the Way
Technology continued to reshape healthcare and I saw how patients were being squeezed between insurers and providers. By 2008 I stopped working with doctors entirely and focused solely on supporting patients.
I joined professional organizations, mentored aspiring advocates, and in 2018 helped develop the first national Board Certification exam for Patient Advocates (earning the right to put BCPA after my name).
I also threw myself into leadership roles, from the Senior Umbrella Network to PULSE Center for Patient Safety. When the pandemic hit, I refused to let connection die. We moved SUN meetings to Zoom, creating some of the most meaningful networking experiences members ever had. That adaptability, I think is what has kept me energized all these years.
Becoming an Aging Icon
Through coaching and reflection, I realized that the people I serve, remarkable individuals continuing their life’s mission into their later years, are ICONS. And I am one too: an Aging Icon.
One client, a 97 year old psychologist and playwright, feared her work would vanish when she passed. Together, we published her plays and built her website, ensuring her legacy lives on. Others are business leaders, creators, and innovators who simply need help navigating aging and health.
What unites them is this: they don’t want to stop living, creating, and contributing,. And neither do I.
Lessons Learned
If my journey has taught me anything, it’s this:
- Stay open to reinvention. Losing a job, a contract, or a business can feel like the end, but it may be the beginning of something greater.
- Build relationships, not just resumes. Every opportunity I’ve had has come through relationships, not cold calls.
- Advocacy matters. Systems often fail people. Being the person who listens and finds solutions can change lives.
- You’re never too old to create impact. My clients and my own story are proof.
I‘ve spent decades fighting for better, more accessible healthcare, and I have no plans to stop. As long as there are Aging Icons out there, I’ll keep helping them shine.
Because when someone says “Nothing else can be done,” my answer will always be, not so fast, let’s find a way.
August 27, 2025
Posted by Aging Icon |
Uncategorized | aging icon, business, Elder Law Attorney, health, healthcare, insurance, life, mental health, seniors, staying relevant, wellness |
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Not so long ago, if you had told me that I’d be excited about a college student joining the Social Media Association for $5 a month, I would have raised an eyebrow.
Not because I’m not excited about students, quite the opposite. But because, for a long time, “social media” was something I thought was for teenagers, influencers, or marketing departments with bigger budgets than mine.
Now? I see it differently.
From “Extra” to Essential
When social media first arrived, my cohort treated it like a shiny toy, fun to play with, maybe useful in business, but certainly not the main event. It sat somewhere in the corner, lumped under “public relations” or “marketing,” often managed by the newest intern.
Fast forward to today, and social media is no longer the appetizer. It’s the main course.
It’s where news breaks before it hits TV, where movements start before they hit the streets, and where brands, personal and professional, either thrive or disappear.
And the best part? You don’t have to be a tech wizard or marketing executive to use it effectively.
My Wake-Up Call
I’ll admit I used to be a skeptic. I didn’t need to post my breakfast or dance on TikTok to prove I was relevant. I had my network, my clients, and my reputation.
But then I realized something, social media isn’t about dancing or oversharing. It’s about:
- Staying informed in real time
- Connecting with people you might never meet otherwise
- Sharing what you know so people see your expertise and trust you
- Building your personal and business brand
As the Membership Chair of the Social Media Association, I’ve seen firsthand how social media has shifted from “just an option” to “mission critical” for anyone who wants to be seen, heard, and remembered.
The New Networking
Once upon a time, networking meant going to a luncheon, exchanging business cards, and hoping someone remembered you the next day.
Now?
You can make a connection on LinkedIn at 10AM, share an article that makes someone think at 2PM and be speaking to a potential client (or collaborator) by dinner.
Social media isn’t replacing in-person connection, it’s amplifying it. The handshake is still powerful, but now the “digital nod” keeps the conversation going long after the meeting ends.
Gravitas in the Digital Age
Here’s something I’ve learned: if you want people to take you seriously, you have to show up.
And in 2025, showing up means being visible online, not just in a once-a-year website update, but in regular, thoughtful posts that tell the world:
“I know what I’m talking about.”
“I care about this subject.”
“I’m here, and I’m paying attention.”
Social media lets you control your narrative. It allows you to demonstrate your knowledge, values, and experience before anyone even shakes your hand.
Social Media for All Generations
Some people think social media is a young person’s game. They’re wrong.
I’ve met retirees using Instagram to share stories from their careers, nonprofit founders in their 70s raising awareness on Facebook, and yes, college students using LinkedIn to build a professional reputation before graduation.
The most inspiring part? We’re all learning from each other. That’s why I’m so thrilled that students are joining the Social Media Association. They bring fresh ideas, curiosity, and a comfort with the platforms that can inspire the rest of us to try something new.
And in return, we offer perspective, strategy, and the wisdom of having seen trends come and go. Together, we bridge the gap.
Why I’m All In
I’m not a social media professional. I don’t spend my days analyzing algorithms or scheduling content calendars. But I’ve come to appreciate that if you want to be part of the conversation in your field, your community, or the wider world, you have to have a seat at the table.
And in many ways, that table is now digital.
I also want to make one thing clear and that’s I’ve been at this a long time. I started using social media in 2001, back when I was on Delphi Forums launching a national audience for my health reform speaking business.
I know firsthand the power these platforms have to connect people and spread ideas. And while I don’t do it all myself anymore because I have someone posting for me daily and a team creating content, my presence is deliberate and strategic. This isn’t about killing time online, it’s about building relationships, credibility, and visibility that matter.
Whether you’re a student just starting out, a seasoned professional looking to stay relevant, or an Aging Icon that might think social media is “for other people,” I encourage you to explore the possibilities.
Because social media isn’t just a part of PR or marketing anymore. It’s where we learn, share, connect, and yes, make an impact.
And the best part? You can start today from wherever you are.
August 13, 2025
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Uncategorized | blogging, business, connections, digital-marketing, life, mental health, seniors, social media, Social Media Association, writing |
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